My Experience. My Story. A kind of introduction.

I am Alizée and I choose to talk about the abandonment wound today because it is an integral part of my story. 

From childhood to adolescence, I suffered the abandonment of several men who were very important in my life. By abandonment I mean men leaving my life without warning or cause. These repeated abandonments left me with an increasingly deep wound, leading me to adopt a range of destructive behaviors (self-harm, substance/alcohol abuse, daydreaming, emotional dependency…). I simply ended up dissociating from myself and causing my own abandonment. I'm not going to lie, I hated myself and I hurt myself a lot.  

One day, I realized that I could no longer live this way. I casually tried yoga, which led me on a spiritual journey to meet myself and my soul. At first, I had no idea that I was suffering from the abandonment wound, but then I started to make connections between the events of my childhood and my current behaviors. Everything became clearer, and I understood. I felt how each abandonment had hurt me and completely distanced me from myself. I was devastated by these abandonments. 

Over the last few years, I've really focused my energy on healing myself and understanding the impact that the abandonment wound can have on a person's life. It has been a deep, sometimes difficult but beautiful and liberating journey. This path has reconciled me with my story and every part of myself. 

I built part of my life on these abandonments by unconsciously identifying with them. To this day, they are my greatest strength, my ultimate source of power. I use them as a catalyst to build the life of my dreams. 

I now use my wound to help others heal.

Today it's my turn to help people who are still suffering from the abandonment wound. I know how lonely and powerless we can feel in the face of the emptiness that this wound creates. If this is your case, know that you are no longer alone and that everything you are feeling is legitimate. 

I'm not a psychologist and I don't have any specific medical training. I am a life coach, but what really matters is that I'm going to tell you my story and what worked for me. The sharing of someone’s experience who has been through the same thing as you is invaluable. It allows those experiencing similar situations to recognize themselves and understand that they are not alone and that what they feel is normal. And there is nothing more profound than feeling supported and understood when we choose our healing. 

Through my story, I will guide you to regain your freedom. The abandonment wound is not a fatality; it can become your greatest ally. I am here today to help you understand, accept, and love it so that it becomes your strength.

In order for this experience to be as constructive as possible, I will invite you throughout the differents articles to answer introspective questions, often organized in the form of activities. It will therefore be helpful to keep something to write with nearby. This is the perfect time to get yourself a cute journal if you don't already have one! Additionally, I encourage you to note any thoughts and reflections you may have while reading.

You may not yet know if you are affected by the abandonment wound, but the fact that you chose to click on this blog is not a coincidence. However, I created this questionnaire to helping you identify whether you carry the abandonment wound within you.

The best version of yourself is already within you, and you now have the power to heal and create the life you have always dreamed of. Now let’s get started.